Setting the Scene by Lori

Making love with your spouse should be a delightful time of intimacy and pleasure. Here are some things to consider in making your private time more comfortable and enjoyable.

Privacy

• Get a lock for your bedroom door or choose places where you will be alone with no chance of people wandering in.
• Consider the noise factor. Insulation in walls, sound-absorbing fabrics (carpets, drapes, etc.), cover music, or taking the farthest bedroom in the house can help keep your sexuality private.
• It’s also a good idea to get a locking box or drawer for bedroom items like birth control, lubricant, sex manuals, etc. (especially if you have nosy kids).

Comfort

• A comfortable bed is a good piece of furniture to invest in. Not only will it make lovemaking more comfortable, but it will also help you get a good night’s sleep.
• Get some soft pillows for tucking here and there.
• Consider the temperature of the room. I’m sure many of you can identify with the temperature issue. Work to find a balance between goosebumps and heat stroke. (Note to men from Paul – being too hot will not keep you from enjoying sex the way being too cold will for her!)

Sight

• Make your bedroom a neat and attractive getaway place just for the two of you.
• Buy a dimmer switch and install it on your bedside lamp for playing with light levels.
• Try different-colored light bulbs (soft pink is nice).
• Candles are a romantic lighting option (be sure and put them where they can’t be knocked over or get the LED kind).

Sound

• If you like music, pick something you feel will enhance your lovemaking time and put it on repeat at a comfortable volume (most people prefer instrumental music, as words can be distracting).
• There are also non-music soundtracks available (waterfalls, crickets, that sort of thing).
• Use a white noise machine to block outside noise and to cover bedroom noise.

Smell

• Be sure to bathe often enough to be pleasing to your spouse (deodorant is an optional preference).
• Perfumes and scented powders are nice (don’t use too much). As an alternative, you could scent your sheets lightly instead.
• Consider air fresheners, scented candles, and scented wax warmers.

Touch

• Be sure to clip and file nails (both fingers and toes!).
• Use lotion for soft skin.
• Have soft clean sheets.
• Store lubricants and massage lotion nearby.

Taste

• Brush your teeth (floss and mouthwash optional).
• Some folks like flavored items in the bedroom (food, flavored lotions and powders).



Afterward

• Have some small towels or wipes handy for cleanup.

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bedroom © Maya Kruchancova | Adobe Stock
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