Setting the Scene

Making love with your spouse should be a delightful time of intimacy and pleasure. Here are some things to consider in making your private time more comfortable and enjoyable.

privacy

♥ Get a lock for your bedroom door or choose places where you will be alone with no chance of people wandering in.

♥ Consider the noise factor. Insulation in walls, sound-absorbing fabrics (carpets, drapes, etc.), cover music, or taking the farthest bedroom in the house can help keep your sexuality private.

♥ It’s also a good idea to get a locking box or drawer for bedroom items like birth control, lubricant, sex manuals, etc. (especially if you have nosy kids).

comfort

♥ A comfortable bed is a good piece of furniture to invest in. Not only will it make lovemaking more comfortable, but it will also help you get a good night’s sleep.

♥ Get some soft pillows for tucking here and there.

♥ Consider the temperature of the room. I’m sure many of you can identify with the temperature issue (Paul calls me Nanook of the North). Work to find a balance between goosebumps and heat stroke. [Note to men from Paul – being too hot will not keep you from enjoying sex the way being too cold will for her!]

sight

♥ Make your bedroom a neat and attractive getaway place just for the two of you.

♥ Buy a dimmer switch and install it on your bedside lamp for playing with light levels.

♥ Try different-colored light bulbs (soft pink is nice).

♥ Candles are a romantic lighting option (be sure and put them where they can’t be knocked over or get the LED kind).

sound

♥ If you like music, pick something you feel will enhance your lovemaking time and put it on repeat at a comfortable volume (most people prefer instrumental music, as words can be distracting).

♥ There are also non-music soundtracks available (waterfalls, crickets, that sort of thing).

smell

♥ Be sure to bathe often enough to be pleasing to your spouse (deodorant is an optional preference).

♥ Perfumes and scented powders are nice (don’t use too much). As an alternative, you could scent your sheets lightly instead.

touch

♥ Be sure to clip and file nails (both fingers and toes!).

♥ Use lotion for soft skin.

♥ Have soft clean sheets.

♥ Store lubricants and massage lotion nearby.

taste

♥ Brush your teeth (floss and mouthwash optional).

♥ Some folk like flavored items in the bedroom (food, flavored lotions and powders).

afterward

♥ Have some small towels handy for cleanup.

♥ Make sure that lighting and sound can be turned off from the bed.

 

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