sex and intimacy for married christians
Making love with your spouse should be a delightful time of intimacy and pleasure. Here are some things to consider in making your private time more comfortable and enjoyable.
♥ Get a lock for your bedroom door or choose places where you will be alone with no chance of people wandering in.
♥ Consider the noise factor. Insulation in walls, sound-absorbing fabrics (carpets, drapes, etc.), cover music, or taking the farthest bedroom in the house can help keep your sexuality private.
♥ It’s also a good idea to get a locking box or drawer for bedroom items like birth control, lubricant, sex manuals, etc. (especially if you have nosy kids).
♥ A comfortable bed is a good piece of furniture to invest in. Not only will it make lovemaking more comfortable, but it will also help you get a good night’s sleep.
♥ Get some soft pillows for tucking here and there.
♥ Consider the temperature of the room. I’m sure many of you can identify with the temperature issue (Paul calls me Nanook of the North). Work to find a balance between goosebumps and heat stroke. [Note to men from Paul – being too hot will not keep you from enjoying sex the way being too cold will for her!]
♥ Make your bedroom a neat and attractive getaway place just for the two of you.
♥ Buy a dimmer switch and install it on your bedside lamp for playing with light levels.
♥ Try different-colored light bulbs (soft pink is nice).
♥ Candles are a romantic lighting option (be sure and put them where they can’t be knocked over or get the LED kind).
♥ If you like music, pick something you feel will enhance your lovemaking time and put it on repeat at a comfortable volume (most people prefer instrumental music, as words can be distracting).
♥ There are also non-music soundtracks available (waterfalls, crickets, that sort of thing).
♥ Be sure to bathe often enough to be pleasing to your spouse (deodorant is an optional preference).
♥ Perfumes and scented powders are nice (don’t use too much). As an alternative, you could scent your sheets lightly instead.
♥ Be sure to clip and file nails (both fingers and toes!).
♥ Use lotion for soft skin.
♥ Have soft clean sheets.
♥ Store lubricants and massage lotion nearby.
♥ Brush your teeth (floss and mouthwash optional).
♥ Some folk like flavored items in the bedroom (food, flavored lotions and powders).
♥ Have some small towels handy for cleanup.
♥ Make sure that lighting and sound can be turned off from the bed.
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