Teens and Masturbation

The following article was written by Dale Kaufman, a married father of two boys, a youth pastor of over 30 years, and a member of The Marriage Bed’s board of directors. This article was originally written in response to a question from a mother…

Women and the Elusive O

We get a lot of E-mail from couples who are struggling because the wife either can’t orgasm or has great difficulty in doing so. Here are some suggestions for dealing with this. give yourself permission to be sexual Some cultures, churches, and families have…

Why Didn’t God Call It Sin?

We have heard a lot of explanations as to why masturbation is sin, but we have yet to have anyone give us a good explanation for why the Bible does not say it is. Is there any other sexual sin which is not directly…

The Problem with Porn

Some have inferred what we say about “sexually explicit material” to mean we are not concerned about pornography. Nothing could be farther from the truth. We see porn as a huge problem, and we know it contributes to sexual problems for many, many couples….

Spouse Won’t Have Sex

Elsewhere we discuss why it is wrong to refuse sex, but what do you do if your spouse chooses to say no? We get several private letters a month from men and women living in a sexless or near sexless marriages against their will….

Solo Masturbation in Marriage

The information here comes in part from a couple of online surveys we did. The first important question then is how accurate are those surveys, do they represent married Christians as a whole? As the surveys were not done from a randomly selected pool…

Sexual Addiction

“Sexual addiction” is a common term today, but there is a great deal of debate about the accuracy of the term. Here we will talk about sexual compulsions to describe a very real problem that can be extremely destructive, both to the individual and…

Rapid Ejaculation

There are many definitions of rapid or premature ejaculation (PE). Some say it’s when a man can’t prolong intercourse long enough for his wife to climax. Does this mean a man who can last half an hour is premature if his wife does not…

Pastor’s Views

We would like to have more pastors and Christian leaders comment on this issue, and yes, we will post comments from those who do not agree with us. You may remain anonymous, but please give us a general idea of who you are. Please…

Painful Intercourse

Sex shouldn’t hurt, but for many women it does. For some it’s minor and/or rare, for others it’s often or always and so bad they come to fear sex. The 1995 “Sex in America” survey found that sexual pain was a problem for 15%…