Women and the Elusive O

We get a lot of E-mail from couples who are struggling because the wife either can’t orgasm or has great difficulty in doing so. Here are some suggestions for dealing with this. give yourself permission to be sexual Some cultures, churches, and families have…

What’s Okay, What’s Not?

We are often asked questions like “Is oral sex okay?” or “My husband wants to make a video of us in the bedroom. Is this a sin?” The reason we get so many of these questions is because the Bible does not specifically address…

The G-Spot

In 1982 Dr. John D. Perry, Beverly Whipple & Alice Kahn Ladas published “The G-Spot,” a book which created a great deal of controversy (aff link to updated version). Perry and company said there was an area in the vagina which responded to stimulation,…

The Anatomy of Female Arousal

Our bodies go through a number of changes during sex. Understanding these changes can help us understand both our sexuality and that of our spouse. This article looks at women. You can read about men’s arousal here. Before we look at how a woman’s…

Sex for the Clueless Groom

The article is targeted at men with very little to absolutely no sexual experience or instruction and is intended to be read shortly before the wedding night. For drawings of the genitals and information about the sex organs, see the His Bits and Her Bits…

Rapid Ejaculation

There are many definitions of rapid or premature ejaculation (PE). Some say it’s when a man can’t prolong intercourse long enough for his wife to climax. Does this mean a man who can last half an hour is premature if his wife does not…

Painful Intercourse

Sex shouldn’t hurt, but for many women it does. For some it’s minor and/or rare, for others it’s often or always and so bad they come to fear sex. The 1995 “Sex in America” survey found that sexual pain was a problem for 15%…

Oxytocin

the bridge between touch and sex Touch is so vital to humans and most of us don’t get nearly enough of it. Babies deprived of touch don’t develop normally because certain connections in the brain actually disappear. Orphans who receive very, very little touch…

Kegels

surprise! Back in the 1930s, Dr. Joshua Davies theorized that strengthening the pubococcygeal muscles (PCs) might help women deal with incontinence. In the 40’s Dr. Arnold Kegels created exercises to do just that. As a side effect, a number of patients reported having better…

How Frequency Affects Women

Most people know what happens to a man when sex is infrequent, but many don’t understand how a woman’s body responds to varying levels of sexual frequency. Every woman is unique, and some will not find the following true, but for the majority this…